My Coaching Plan
I love life coaching because I have seen it effectively bring change in the stagnant areas of people’s lives. I love life coaching because it declutters your mind. Then it enables you to focus on what is important and valuable to you. It surprises you by bringing renewed energy and opportunities. Together we will identify where you would like to make progress. This sometimes takes time and patient curiosity, but it is essential not to rush into action. When the direction becomes clearer, we will design the easiest plan for sustainable change.
How My Coaching Works
My aim with coaching is to help each person to do what they already want to do, and to experience a feeling of progress immediately.
The feeling of progress is not based on increasing motivation or will power, but on starting with behaviours that are easy to do and quickly give you a sense of progress towards your aspirations. I have noticed that the feeling of progress is often followed by excitement and courage as people face their fears and unhelpful beliefs. Change that previously seemed impossible can be accomplished by starting small and building steadily.
Accomplishing specific aspirations or goals are not the only aim of my sessions, but they do provide a place to start as you choose new habits that reflect your values.
Clarifying your goals and aspirations.
What do you want?
An aspiration is defined as, “A strong desire, hope or longing to achieve something.”
The first step in my coaching program is to clarify your aspirations and goals. This process is unique for each person and often the goal you begin with changes as you develop insight into yourself and your values. It is essential to be patient and curious during this stage so that your action plan and strategies are focused in the right direction.
aspirations and goals
In step one I am asking:
What do you want?
In step two I am asking:
Are you sure that is what you want?
In this stage I ask questions to help you clarify what you value in life so that we can decide if your aspirations and goals are in line with that. I use the following criteria to assess whether your goal is good for you.
- Is it realistic?
- Do you feel excited about it?
- Is it specific so that we can measure your progress?
- Is it in line with your values?
- Is it based on what you believe is important or is it perhaps based on the expectations of significant people in your life?
The term “belief” is not limited to religious or spiritual beliefs you may hold as true. It refers to any attitudes or recurring thoughts that you hold as true about yourself or life in general. These beliefs often exist in your subconscious, but they have a strong influence over the way you behave.
During any of our sessions together you may discover limiting beliefs that prevent you from progressing towards your goal.
Once you have clarified your goal for the next six months, we have a session focused on identifying your unhelpful beliefs. You will learn how to replace them with beliefs that support you towards achieving your goal. We only identify your negative beliefs that relate to your goal. This focus prevents your being overwhelmed by the number of unhelpful beliefs you may become aware of. You will learn a practical skill to identify a negative belief and dismantle it so that it no longer interferes with your progress.
Values are the driving force behind the judgements, decisions and choices you make. Inner conflict occurs when you are living against your values. Values are what you believe is most important in life. Values are not fixed in stone, they can be adjusted and changed as you grow. It is essential to identify your values so that your goals and action steps are in line with them. Once you have clarified your values you will find it easier to decide on the best way to spend your money, time and energy. This session helps to clarify the bigger direction and purpose
of your life.
Here are some examples:
I value a supportive, pleasureable marriage where we encourage each other in stimulating activities, service to others and educating our children.